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With the revised information and up-to-date research, Out of the Shadows is the premier work on sex addiction, written by a pioneer in its treatment.Sex is at the core of our identities. And when it becomes a compulsion, it can unravel our lives.

Out of the Shadows is the premier work on this disorder, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Revised and updated to include t With the revised information and up-to-date research, Out of the Shadows is the premier work on sex addiction, written by a pioneer in its treatment.Sex is at the core of our identities. And when it becomes a compulsion, it can unravel our lives. Out of the Shadows is the premier work on this disorder, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Revised and updated to include the latest research-and to address the exploding phenomenon of cybersex addiction-this third edition identifies the danger signs, explains the dynamics, and describes the consequences of sexual addiction and dependency.

With practical wisdom and spiritual clarity, it points the way out of the shadows of sexual compulsion and back into the light and fullness of life. This book is very needed, and very sad. It shows a world few of us will ever understand. It is a revolting world filled with atrocities with victims on all sides.

It shows the horror of sex addiction in all its forms. It shows the sad side of the addict, and the reason it is so very hard to get better, to stop acting out. It shows a way to get better, and hope for the future.Sex addicts are usually not sex offenders. There are plenty of sex addicts who don’t end up doing anything illegal and the This book is very needed, and very sad. It shows a world few of us will ever understand. It is a revolting world filled with atrocities with victims on all sides.

I'm not a supporter of the twelve steps program so I cannot fully advocate this book. Having said that, I did gain extremely valuable and urgent new understanding regarding sex and romantic relations.I was able to recognize in my own core beliefs some damaging ideas:- 'No one would love me as I am.'

Which stems from my childhood when my parental figures didn't give me unconditional love but made it a reward for academic performance and obedience. I thought that if people want a relationship is I'm not a supporter of the twelve steps program so I cannot fully advocate this book.

Having said that, I did gain extremely valuable and urgent new understanding regarding sex and romantic relations.I was able to recognize in my own core beliefs some damaging ideas:- 'No one would love me as I am.' Which stems from my childhood when my parental figures didn't give me unconditional love but made it a reward for academic performance and obedience. I thought that if people want a relationship is because they want something out of me not because they care for me.- 'My needs are never going to be met if I have to depend upon others.' I had a deep sense as a child that my parents would abandon me at any moment if I wasn't a good boy and most of the time they were never really there for me.I also recognized that in my last romantic relationship I had this feeling that if everything in my life was not alright or figured out I was not worthy of love. I also felt I had to pretend that everything in the relationship was alright when it was not.When the relationship ended, I had tremendous difficulty learning to move on because I felt undesirable and didn't think it was possible for me to get another boyfriend to care for me.

It was also difficult to let him go because I felt responsible that my ex was having casual and potentially dangerous sex after the break up.It was only after reading the book that I realized I was suffering from inadequacy and grandiosity. I used to feel inadequate (sexually, physically, emotionally, and professionally inadequate) so I felt responsible for my ex's actions (grandiosity). For example, 'if only I had been wiser, fully comfortable with my sexuality, and more attractive, then he would not have left me' or, 'if only I had been nicer and had been hurt him, then he would not be engaging in risky sexual behavior.' During the relationship and still after the break-up, I was obsessively and toxically preoccupied with him. I was concentrated on him as a distraction from my loneliness, pain, unresolved childhood trauma, and unsatisfying present reality.I think the most valuable lesson I got from this book is threefold.

First, I'm only responsible for myself. I'm not responsible for my ex's decisions. Second, I can focus my energy on developing my own sexuality as opposed to being obsessed with the sexuality of a boyfriend or former boyfriend. Third, I have childhood and teenage wounds that I need to heal. Carnes presents examples of previous clients he has provided therapy to in order to show the thoughts and beliefs of those who are 'sex addicts.'

He used very little supporting research throughout the book, and many of his references included books written by him. He presents pedophiliacs, paraphiliacs, etc. As 'sex addicts' and states that sex addiction as a disease. He includes a chapter on the 12 Step Model based on Alcoholics Anonymous as a form of treatment for sex addicts. Again, there is Carnes presents examples of previous clients he has provided therapy to in order to show the thoughts and beliefs of those who are 'sex addicts.'

He used very little supporting research throughout the book, and many of his references included books written by him. He presents pedophiliacs, paraphiliacs, etc. As 'sex addicts' and states that sex addiction as a disease. He includes a chapter on the 12 Step Model based on Alcoholics Anonymous as a form of treatment for sex addicts. Again, there is very little evidence to back up his argument. He makes no mention of anti-social personality disorders, and how those diagnosed with it may not have committed their crimes for the same reasons as one who is 'addicted to sex.'

Out Of The Shadows Patrick Carnes Ebook Torrents Online

He includes social/enironmental factors as causes of sex addiction, which I could agree with, though mentioning the biological factors could have been beneficial had he had any evidence/research. Overall, I had trouble accepting much of what he said due to my own experience working with sex offenders but he did make interesting points and provide another viewpoint. As a counseling intern at Salvation Army (SA), my supervisor recommend I read this book. SA counsels those with alcohol and substance abuse addiction; sexual addiction (as well as other addictions) can co-occur along side substance abuse and clients can have multiple addictions. I thought the stories in this book were interesting to read and it really gives you a glimpse of the addicts' struggle. It does a good job explaining what the addicts go through, their thoughts and emotions. As a counseling intern at Salvation Army (SA), my supervisor recommend I read this book.

SA counsels those with alcohol and substance abuse addiction; sexual addiction (as well as other addictions) can co-occur along side substance abuse and clients can have multiple addictions. I thought the stories in this book were interesting to read and it really gives you a glimpse of the addicts' struggle. It does a good job explaining what the addicts go through, their thoughts and emotions.

The only thing I would have liked this book to include was research and statistics on the addiction and perhaps a proposed method of treatment outside of just joining a 12 step program. I didn't really read this book. Browsed is more like it.

It seems to be a bit outdated. Published 23 years ago. Still, plenty of good stuff about sex addiction. Not much about female sex addiction, though.

I suspect there's plenty more info out and about now. As he doesn't mention them, I assume that SAA and SLAA were either not up and running at the time or had only just gotten going. He does mention AA and Alanon as I recall. Maybe I'll get back to it in the future.So now I'm browsing the up I didn't really read this book. Browsed is more like it. It seems to be a bit outdated.

Published 23 years ago. Still, plenty of good stuff about sex addiction. Not much about female sex addiction, though.

I suspect there's plenty more info out and about now. As he doesn't mention them, I assume that SAA and SLAA were either not up and running at the time or had only just gotten going. He does mention AA and Alanon as I recall. Maybe I'll get back to it in the future.So now I'm browsing the updated version, which is about ten years more recent.

The difference shows as sex-addiction has come out of the shadows to assume its proper place along side alcohol, drugs and food as one of the four horsemen of the compulsion apocalypse! Then there's all the 'minor' ones!Now I'm slowing down and reading closer as it gets more compelling for me. The next chapter will be about twelve-step recovery. He pretty much waits 'til he's laid out the problem(s) to get to the 12-steps.

Just prior to this he talks a bout family/group therapy, which can be useful as sexual compusion-obsession-dysfunction often cascades from generation to generation inside a family.Finished last night after finishing 'The Martian'. This is an excellent read for those affected by sexual obsession/compulsion, which is to say, millions of us. We're affected either directly because we have it(me) or we're more indirectly affected by being(or having been) in a relationship with a(or multiple) sex addict(s)(me again). As with the other big three(food, alcohol and drugs) sex addiction has its own special challenges.

The author does pretty well in exploring both these challenges and the options for recovery. If the book had been published more recently no doubt its content would have been a bit more complete and I could give it a 5. rating. Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes was one of the old books from my college/graduate school days (I can't remember exactly which) that I am no revisiting to see if it was worth keeping a hold of. This was a difficult, but also an interesting read for me. As the subtitle of the book indicates the book is about understanding sexual addiction and that is no small topic to tackle.Carnes tries to get you to see things from the viewpoint of the addict.

To see certain behaviors as part of an addictio Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes was one of the old books from my college/graduate school days (I can't remember exactly which) that I am no revisiting to see if it was worth keeping a hold of. This was a difficult, but also an interesting read for me. As the subtitle of the book indicates the book is about understanding sexual addiction and that is no small topic to tackle.Carnes tries to get you to see things from the viewpoint of the addict. To see certain behaviors as part of an addiction that the perpetrator doesn't have complete control over. This is very challenging to do, particularly for some of the behaviors listed in the book like rape, incest, child molestation.

Not that Carnes is suggesting that these behaviors aren't terrible, just that if the person is a sexual addict the addict is also a victim in the circumstances as well. This is challenging to accept, but also makes some sense to me.I found it to be an interesting book to be reading in the era of #metoo and an increased awareness of sexual harassment/abuse and rape. It makes me wonder how many men and women who have acted this way do so because they can't really control their behaviors and are stuck in addiction.

Out Of The Shadows Patrick Carnes Ebook Torrents 2017

I don't for a minute think that this is the sole cause, but it does make me wonder. I simply found it very interesting trying to understand the internal beliefs of a sexual addict and what may lead to their behaviors.The worst thing about this book is that it is a bit outdated. I think it would be interesting to have an updated version. My edition was last updated in 2001 and there have been significant leaps in the internet and the way that it shapes our sexuality and most likely addictions as well. More focus on that could be interesting.Another slight negative is that this book doesn't really give much research. I don't think that this book was really intended to in the first place though.

This was more meant as an introductory piece for people to understand some of the basics about sexual addiction, not to be a full fledged research piece. I can understand wanting to know more, but I think that was beyond the scope of this work.So overall, I thought the book was well done and did a good job of opening my eyes to the reality of sexual addiction. It's not an easy topic by any means so it's not necessarily an enjoyable book. It is however one that serves a purpose and I think it serves it well.

It could be useful to have another update, but I think what it says is still plenty useful for understanding the topic. For those readers looking to better understand sexual addiction, hyper-sexual disorder or compulsive libido levels I simply can’t recommend this book. Patrick Carnes is a true behaviorist attempting to create tools to manage, not recovery, from a biologically rooted issue. In essence, he’s performing weed control with scissors. To best understand why there are better choices I’ll introduce Dr. Carnes’ clinical perspective on sex as an alternate title of the book, such as: “You’ve been having sex For those readers looking to better understand sexual addiction, hyper-sexual disorder or compulsive libido levels I simply can’t recommend this book. Patrick Carnes is a true behaviorist attempting to create tools to manage, not recovery, from a biologically rooted issue.

In essence, he’s performing weed control with scissors. To best understand why there are better choices I’ll introduce Dr. Carnes’ clinical perspective on sex as an alternate title of the book, such as: “You’ve been having sex for all the wrong reasons; Sexual Addiction; when sex becomes confused with comforting and nurturing.” Instead, Dr. Carnes perceives sex as simply a ‘mood-altering experience’ and sexual addiction is merely a “pathological relationship” to that experience. So not only has your reason to engage in sex been criticized, but he continues a near constant negative view of ‘the experience’ from cover to cover.

Further proving his behaviorist stance, Dr. Carnes is convinced that a dysfunctional childhood is the genesis to all sexual addictions (p 41).

He’s unsure of his position on self-comforting throughout the book while listing one of the core value recovery stages is that others can fulfill your needs if you let them know what they are; regardless if they are healthy or not. Soon, the reader becomes obsessive in finding the author's definition of normal or ideal intimacy, sexual behavior and manliness.On a positive note, Dr.

Carnes’ treatment plan is modifying the AA 12-step process towards managing, but not recovering from, this pathological lifestyle. Fortunately, this list is truly the best part of the book and should be at the front and not at the end.

It is helpful and I recommend the workbook that walks the willing and teachable reader through the painful steps; (Facing the Shadow Patrick Carnes, Gentle Path Press., 2015)To those looking for the faith-led book this is far from that. Carnes mentions God in his 12-step process, his perspective of Him is someone who simply ‘removes’ the blemishes of addiction without prayer or repentance. May I recommend a much better book which chooses not to victimize the reader's past, but encourage towards full-recovery through biological, behavioral and spiritual management of hyper-sexual drives. (Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction, Mark Laasar, Zondervan Press., 2004). It's a good book following a 12 steps process for dealing with sexual addiction. I think for the time it came out it was a little more relevant as it addresses issues around seeing people dealing with sexual addiction as people and not laughing these issues off- which perhaps there's some selection bias here but I don't really see so much of that in the communities I'm in these days. The first few chapters are painfully slow and somewhat boring, but the book picks up about half way through.

I'm It's a good book following a 12 steps process for dealing with sexual addiction. I think for the time it came out it was a little more relevant as it addresses issues around seeing people dealing with sexual addiction as people and not laughing these issues off- which perhaps there's some selection bias here but I don't really see so much of that in the communities I'm in these days. The first few chapters are painfully slow and somewhat boring, but the book picks up about half way through. I'm giving it four stars because of all the absolutes and generalizations. It really only provides one option for help, and it suggests that things have to go a certain way in recovery, but that's not what I see in practice.

That's fine for someone picking up one perspective who has some experience with this, but I think of all the people who might have no background, not have advanced education and critical thinking skills, and might be reading this to support someone they love. I could see projection and a lack of understanding coming from this and I think the author could have done better. Picked this book as part of background research for a new story I am writing.

When I started I knew absolutely zero about sexual addiction. This book was recommended as the ideal tutorial on the topic and definitely fulfilled that purpose.The author neither makes excuses nor condemns sexual addicts, and his primary point is that it is similar to other forms of addiction (alcohol, drugs, gambling). Society treats sexual disorders and crimes much differently than the others, and the treatment appa Picked this book as part of background research for a new story I am writing. When I started I knew absolutely zero about sexual addiction. This book was recommended as the ideal tutorial on the topic and definitely fulfilled that purpose.The author neither makes excuses nor condemns sexual addicts, and his primary point is that it is similar to other forms of addiction (alcohol, drugs, gambling). Society treats sexual disorders and crimes much differently than the others, and the treatment apparatus is far less developed.

Carnes case is we must eventually do the same for this type of addiction in order to prevent or mitigate the harm that comes from it.A good case, fairly persuasive although I still do not know enough about the topic to say for sure Carnes is absolutely right. Since this is only background research, I doubt I will proceed any farther. Honestly, while there was some interesting information, the book read like a lot of babble, repeating itself over and over again. I was looking for something more aimed at psychology, not something written for someone who is considering entering a 12 step program themselves.

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I also honestly felt the entire book could have been fit into a 25 page booklet, including all of the tables and checklists. This is another one that will be sold back to Amazon if they'll take it, or donated to the local li Honestly, while there was some interesting information, the book read like a lot of babble, repeating itself over and over again. I was looking for something more aimed at psychology, not something written for someone who is considering entering a 12 step program themselves. I also honestly felt the entire book could have been fit into a 25 page booklet, including all of the tables and checklists. This is another one that will be sold back to Amazon if they'll take it, or donated to the local library. Patrick Carnes is superb at describing the nature and cause of sexual addiction especially the four beliefs that underpin it.

He devotes a section also to coaddicts which means this is a book for partners and family of addicts a well. Only complaint is that his examples tend towards the high end of the scale. The reader would be forgiven for thinking that every sex addict has been raised in a highly dysfunctional family where Mom was a distant alcoholic and Dad committed incest. Otherwise a very Patrick Carnes is superb at describing the nature and cause of sexual addiction especially the four beliefs that underpin it.

He devotes a section also to coaddicts which means this is a book for partners and family of addicts a well. Only complaint is that his examples tend towards the high end of the scale. The reader would be forgiven for thinking that every sex addict has been raised in a highly dysfunctional family where Mom was a distant alcoholic and Dad committed incest. Otherwise a very well written and useful resource for those in recovery. Carnes, Ph.D., is an internationally known authority and speaker on addiction and recovery issues.

He has authored over twenty books including the bestselling titles Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction, Facing the Shadow, Betrayal Bond, Don’t Call It Love, A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps and The Gentle Path through the Twelve Principles.Dr. Carnes’ research provides the architecture for the “task model” of treating addictions that is used by thousands of therapists worldwide and many well-known treatment centers, residential facilities, and hospitals. He founded IITAP (International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals), which provides CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) training and certification as well as cutting-edge information for addiction professionals. Carnes currently serves as a Senior Fellow and Executive Director for the Gentle Path Program at The Meadows in Wickenburg, Arizona.